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[TTVN20] Why Your Tween Needs to Struggle (And How It Makes Them Stronger)

Episode Summary

In our Google culture of instant answers, we’re robbing our kids of a crucial learning tool: productive struggle. In this episode, Marina Joy explores why a little difficulty is actually good for your tween and how it builds the resilience they need for life’s bigger challenges.

What You’ll Learn

  • Why reaching for Google before wrestling with a problem is actually causing problems
  • How struggling with tasks creates deeper, more lasting learning
  • The difference between productive struggle and overwhelming frustration
  • Practical strategies to help your tween build resilience through manageable challenges

Key Topics Covered

  • The power of deeper learning through grappling with ideas
  • Why grammar (and other skills) learned out of context don’t stick
  • Teaching schedule independence without spoon-feeding
  • The “easy plus one” approach to stretching capabilities
  • Managing the right amount of struggle for your child
  • How to model productive struggle as a parent

Practical Takeaways

Marina shares actionable steps you can implement this week, including:

  • When to pause before helping (and what to ask instead)
  • How to create manageable challenges just beyond your child’s comfort zone
  • Why focusing on process matters more than perfect outcomes during learning
  • One area where you can step back and let your child take the lead

Perfect For Parents Who Want To:

  • Develop independent learners
  • Build their tween’s confidence and competence
  • Prepare their child for high school and beyond

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